- When Christians embraced no-fault divorce.
- At the seventh Lambeth Conference when artificial contraceptives were approved by the Anglican communion under certain circumstances.
- When Christians embraced Griswold v. Connecticut.
- When pro-life Christians fell into consequentialism and supported abortion in cases of rape, incest, and when the life of the mother is at risk.
- Whenever Christians made use of IVF, had a selective abortion, or supported embryonic stem cell research.
- Every time a Christian engaged in sexual activity outside marriage.
- Every time a Christian remarried after divorce.
- Every time a Christian used artificial contraception.
Christians who oppose the redefinition of marriage MUST stop with the focus on labels, and strategy, and “winning the war”. We’ve lost. It’s over.
If we feel comfortable condemning same-sex marriage but we would not tell a friend or family member that it’s wrong to get married for a third time, then we need to shut up. It’s hypocrisy and it’s killing our “message”.
It’s time to save our souls by living as Christians, loving one another, caring for the least of these, speaking the truth in charity when prompted by the Holy Spirit. It’s time to actually live marriage so that our words match our examples. It’s time to stop expecting the civil law to privilege a concept that we fail to uphold in our own actions. The expectation that we should have it both ways is part of what has led to this failure.
My prayer is not to be the guy who tells people that gay marriage is wrong, but to be the father and husband who — by his hospitality and love — shows people what marriage actually is. If we can’t give them an example, we might as well describe color to the blind.